Week 4

As I evaluated myself on communication. I quickly realized I absolutly do not like to speak in front of my people at all. I do not like attention drawn to myself in front of people I dont know. Myself and my family and colleague rated me the same on 2 of the surveys. On the Verbal Aggressiveness Scale my score for myself was a lot lower than the score that my colleague and family member received for me. Other people see how I am in commication all the time and how if I don't like what someone says I will disagree with it quickly rather than keeping my peace. My rating was low but theirs were both in the moderate area. This week, one thing that really sunk in with me is that you can't judge people based on a first impression. When people meet new people, some tend to get really nervous and scared, therefore a first meeting might be very awkward for them. You must alwas give someone a second chance, don't judge based on the first time. To really get to know someone you must be around that person for quite a bit of time to understand them. Another thing I have learned is that schemas play a big part in your entire life. The things you have been around and the experiences you've had will lead you to communicate in certain ways with certain people and lead you to beleive things also. As in dating, you can't base future or present relationships on past relationships. You can't expect what happened then to happen now. You must make your mind up that this person is a completely different person even though he may be doing some of the things that the past one did, he still isn't the same person and may be completely different and you can't judge him based on your schemas! Or past kids in your classrooms. If a child comes in the first day and things happen all day long that have happened with a past kid, you can't expect immediatly that that child will be just like a past kid. It is a completely new kid. I have learned that you can't use judgement in a classroom at all. Kids can change, they change and grow everyday. They just need you to be open with them and give them room to grow without criticizing them based off of your schemas. Every child is different and there will never be 2 kids that are the same!